Loneliness is a very painful feeling. Loneliness is the feeling we get in our heart and soul when we want to be connected with someone, and someone is not available to connect with. This can certainly occur when we are alone, but it also occurs in relationships when one or both partners are unavailable for connection -- due to being angry, withdrawn, tired or ill. Though it's a very unpleasant feeling, loneliness can be dealt with.
Some of the tips that can help you overcome the feeling of loneliness include:
1. Initiate meaningful conversations:- The first step to feeling more loved is creating close relationships, and that starts with meaningful, engaged conversations. These don't necessarily need to be deep and spiritual in nature. They just need to be honest, authentic, and reciprocal.
2. Give the gift of your presence:- Often when we converse with people, we're not fully listening; we're formulating our response in our heads and waiting for our turn to talk. We're not only doing the other person a disservice when we do this; we're also shortchanging ourselves.
3. Change your beliefs about the world and love:- When we tell ourselves the same things over and over again, we end up creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you tell yourself that people don't care, you'll put that energy into the world and then easily find evidence to back it up. If you tell yourself you'll never experience love, you'll create mental barriers and then subconsciously repel it. So leave the negative beliefs aside and start focussing more at the positives.
4. Consider that love might look different from what you visualized it as:- By telling yourself that love is coming to you every day, you're not merely lying to yourself; you're also taking responsibility for recognizing the love around you. It might not be from the person you want to be with romantically. It might not meet the standards and criteria you defined in your head. That doesn't mean it isn't there. When a friend pushes you to reach your potential, it's an act of love. When a family member takes the time to listen to you, helping you form insights about your life, it's an act of love.
5. Give love when you're tempted to judge:- Ultimately, this is how we all want to be loved: without judgment, pity, or condescension. Commit to giving this kind of love, both in your existing relationships and in new ones you might be tempted to avoid. That doesn't mean you shouldn't follow your instincts when you feel unsafe around someone. It just means you look below the surface, give people a chance, and in doing so create the potential for more meaningful, mutually supportive relationships.
6. Look deeply at your needs and intentions:- Sometimes when we go out looking for love, we're really trying to avoid giving ourselves what we need. There's pain in our past we don't want to acknowledge or there's an emptiness inside us that we don't want to fill on our own.