Child rearing can be difficult under any circumstances. Without a partner, the stakes are even higher. Life in a single parent household, though common, can be quite stressful for the adult and the children. Members may unrealistically expect that the family can function like a two-parent family. However, that is often not the case.
The single parent may feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of juggling care for the children, maintaining a job and keeping up with the bills and household chores.
As a single parent, you might have sole responsibility for all aspects of day-to-day child care. This can result in added pressure, stress and fatigue. If you're too tired or distracted to be emotionally supportive or consistently discipline your child, behavioural problems might arise. Single-parent families also generally have lower incomes and less access to health care. Juggling work and child care can be financially difficult and socially isolating. You might worry about the lack of a male or female parental role model for your child, too.
Other stressors faced by single parent families.
1. Visitation and custody problems.
2. The effects of continuing conflict between the parents.
3. Less opportunity for parents and children to spend time together.
4. Financial concerns.
5. Burden of all the responsibilities on one person's shoulder.
6. Constant questioning by the child.
7. Problems caused by the parents' dating and entering new relationships.Disruptions of extended family relationships.Effects of the breakup on children's school performance and peer relations.
How can a single parent deal with these challenges?
Tips to reduce stress in your single-parent family:
1. Show your love:- Remember to praise your child. Give him or her your unconditional love and support. Set aside time each day to play, read or simply sit with your child.
2. Create a routine :- Structure - such as regularly scheduled meals and bedtimes - helps your child know what to expect.
3. Find quality child care:- If you need regular child care, look for a qualified caregiver who can provide stimulation in a safe environment. Don't rely on an older child as your only baby sitter. Be careful about asking a new friend or partner to watch your child.
4. Set limits:- Explain house rules and expectations to your child - such as speaking respectfully - and enforce them. Work with other caregivers in your child's life to provide consistent discipline. Consider re-evaluating certain limits, such as your child's screen time, when he or she shows the ability to accept more responsibility.
5. Don't feel guilty :- Don't blame yourself or spoil your child to try to make up for being a single parent.
6. Take care of yourself:- Include physical activity in your daily routine, eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep. Arrange time to do activities you enjoy alone or with close friends.
7. Lean on others :- Work out a carpool schedule with other parents. Join a support group for single parents or seek social services. Call on trusted loved ones, friends and neighbours for help. Faith communities can be helpful resources, too.
8. Stay positive:- It's OK to be honest with your child if you're having a difficult time, but remind him or her that things will get better. Try to keep your sense of humour when dealing with everyday challenges.