Physically Intimate yet Emotionally Distant?
Intimacy forms the basic crux of a romantic relationship which forms the bridge between two people. It involves knowing someone deeply and being able to be completely free in their presence. Ideally, physical intimacy in a relationship should symbolize the physical representation of the emotional connect that two people share.
However, with young adults being more sexually liberated, with the rise of feminism, and easy availability of birth control, sexual relationships outside of traditional committed romantic relationships have become increasingly popular. The effects of social media and films can also be blamed for the rise in this so called ‘hook up’ culture. Relationships based on such casual sexual relationships are often unable to pass the test of time.
Further, certain situational influences and issues such as ongoing tension between partners, presence of certain situational stressors such as unemployment or infertility or influences of people outside of the relationship could also be a reason for a disconnect between partners. It is thus imperative that both the individuals become more receptive to each other and try to follow certain tips to strengthen their emotional connect:
- To re-establish an emotional connection with your partner, it is imperative for you to first introspect. Reflect on your feelings and try and figure out the reasons that may have caused an emotional disconnect between you and your partner.
- Share your feelings with your partner and let them know how important this relationship is to you. Use a combination of both verbal expressions of love, affection and care along with acts of physical intimacy to reconnect with your partner.
- Communication plays a key role in developing an emotional bond with your partner. Thoughtful and honest communication between you and your partner would help you learn about what makes each of you happy, what makes you both angry or what frustrates you both. It is as important to express as it is to listen.
- One of the most important elements of a relationship is to be there for each other. Support your partner whenever needed.
- Appreciate your partner’s efforts. Let your partner know that their efforts mean the world to your and express your gratitude as well as happiness. Reciprocate your partner’s efforts by doing something special for them in return.
- If you both work long hours, take a day off once in a while and spend quality time with your partner.
- Accept your partner the way he or she is. Respect your partner and his or her feelings and needs.
- Try and minimize the influence of people outside of the relationship. Be it family or friends, it is important for you to first focus on establishing a strong connection with your partner.
- You could also consider getting help from a relationship counselor in order to try to shorten the gap between you and your partner.
