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I want a man who treats me equal

Question: I am a single working woman. I am eligible for marriage but I have an issue trusting anybody. There are so many cases where girls and boys are suffering from despair because of behavioural issues from their partners or dominating nature of their partners. I am extremely independent and cannot tolerate anyone's interference in my life. So how can I convey that I am more than capable of being an equal partner in a relationship? Neither I like mollycoddling nor I want to be mollycoddled. Please suggest, is there any way of conveying my nature in a polite but firm manner? - By Anonymous

Answer by Dr Rachna K Singh: I can understand looking at the soaring high divorce rates, your fear and apprehensions about getting married are getting stronger. However, I would also like to tell you that though the divorce rates are increasing by the day, the percentage of failed marriages in India are only about 1%. Hence, there are 99% people who are living together. Further, considering the fact that you are very clear of what you want, I would suggest that you could tell your potential partner about your needs and aspirations. In today's world, a lot of households have both the partners working and hence it is nothing unusual that you are expecting. Clear and crisp communication can do wonders in your case.

- Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is heading the Department of Holistic Medicine & Wellness at Artemis Health Institute, Gurgaon & is a Relationship, Lifestyle, & Stress Management Expert.