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My husband has a problem with my best friend

Question: My best friend of 10 years doesn't get along well with my husband. They pretend to adore each other in front of me, but I know my husband doesn't really like it when she is around. I don't know how to handle the situation. I love them both dearly and can't stand the difference. - Anonymous
Answer by Dr Rachna K Singh: I understand that you must be in a difficult situation right now, having two very close people of your life not like each other. But it is very important to understand that every individual is different and we may not like everyone around us. I suggest don't stress too much on bringing both of them together. They are two mature adults and have the right to choose whom they like or not. Since, both of them are very important to you, continue having a strong relationship with both of them without intermingling them.

Also it would be a good idea to give them individual attention, time and affection. Giving extra attention to one of them in front of the other may create more insecurity!
Also having a clear communication with them separately on this aspect might help you release your fears, which might actually look larger than they are. There could be a genuine concern one might be having with the other and in that case, a simple communication can iron out things to an extent of cordiality and comfort.

Make social programs independent of each other, which will help you develop your relationship independently instead of being co-dependent.

- Dr. Rachna Khanna Singh is heading the Department of Holistic Medicine & Wellness at Artemis Health Institute, Gurgaon & is a Relationship, Lifestyle, & Stress Management Expert.