Secrets of a happy married life
People marry for many reasons, most often including one or more of the following: legal, social, emotional, economical, spiritual, and religious. These might include arranged marriages, family obligations, the legal establishment of a nuclear family unit, the legal protection of children and public declaration of love. Here’s how to make sure your marriage is a happy one.
Mental preparation – being mentally prepared to make adjustments with each other regarding various issues in life. In order to have a placid life we must be mentally prepared before the married life begins.Pre marital counselling is a very good idea where the couple can discuss discrepent areas such as varied economic/social backgrounds in the presence of a professional 3rd party
- Communication– is the most integral part of a relationship
- Compromise– making steps towards each other in tricky situations .when there is love one doesn’t feel its a compromise,then its just a step towards making each other happier!
- Mutual Respect: Having respect towards each other. It’s essential to respect each other’s social, economic, cultural, physical, emotional differences.Respecting yr partner esp during fights . Strict no to abusive language. Even respecting the way other person has been brought up or how their parenting styles have been.
- Space- giving some time off from each other without any complaints or grumbling. Each one of us needs some – me only – time which is required for ones personal, physical & spiritual growth . So giving time off to each other to visit parents by themselves or visit friends .
Fights& Arguments-learning to agree to disagree- having respect for each other even after and while disagreeing with each other is important. Talking out issues is essential and not fighting back with rude statements. Healthy arguments help us learn & move fwd.
- Sex and intimacy: physical intimacy is an extension of love & the essence of a relationship.This is essential for a marriage to survive for long, perceiving the partner as sexually and physically attractive leads to better and healthier sexual lives and thus leading to more satisfying marriages. Being innovative in bed is very essential for a spark in the married life.
- Doing the unusual: Usually the usual schedules lead to a very monotonous life making either or both feel stifled in the relationship. Breaking this fixed schedule and involving in activities together such as more time spent with each other, planning a vacation, candlelight dinners, adventure activities etc.will rejuvenate both.
