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Do opposites attract?

We have all heard of the age old concept “opposites attract”. The answer to whether opposites attract, or like attracts like, is a never- ending debate. We are drawn to those who are similar to us because it affirms our own characteristics as being normal or desirable. Pairing up with an opposite can add to the normal baggage of challenges that a relationships brings with it.

Although it seems logical to think that like-minded people would be attracted to each other but such a relationship could be boring for some. Liking the same things, or having the same hobbies leaves out little room for adventure. However, differences that seem so problematic may actually be the things that add spice to a relationship. Being with someone different adds a previously missing element in your life. What one lacks, the other completes.

Researchers have found that the partners who see themselves as similar have more satisfying relationships, regardless of whether or not they actually are very similar.  A successful relationship depends on how different you are, what you choose to make of the differences, and what the differences make of you.

Tips for couples in an opposites-attract relationship –

No two people are exactly alike. You cannot expect your partner to accept you the way you are if you do not accept them as they are. However, be realistic about the fact that you are not always going to understand one another.

All relationships are built on sacrifices and compromises. Even if you and your partner are different, meeting the other person halfway is a must!

The key to making any relationship work is honest communication. It is important to communicate to one another about what you are feeling.

Notice and appreciate every effort that your partner makes to do something your way.

Your differences may leave you both astray, but don’t forget the love and affection that you both have for each other. Focus on the good things and how your partner enriches your life.